Want to become successful in school or in the workplace? Then you may need to think about increasing your emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is defined as “the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others”. It has been said that intelligence can get you the job, but emotional intelligence can get you promoted. Unlike intelligence, emotional intelligence can be strengthened and expanded through the development of four core skills: self-awareness, self-management, social-awareness, and relationship management. Ready to increase your emotional intelligence and get a leg up at work? Then keep reading!
Increase self-awareness = Practice Self-Reflection
Before you go to bed at night, write down your three best moments of the day and your three worst moments of the day. Keep this up for a month straight. At the end of the month, reflect on what you can do better and how.
Increase self-regulation = Monitor Your Feelings
Each day we are inundated with a roller coaster of emotions – happy, sad, stressed, confused. We sometimes have trouble actually naming and identifying these feelings. It sounds silly, but try using a feelings wheel for a week. When you start feeling a strong emotion, identify it using the wheel. It will help you understand the reaction you have to it. You then become better at how to identify and regulate your feelings.
Increase social-awareness = Listen
We can only empathize with others if we truly listen to them. Instead of thinking about what your response will be, focus on what the other person is saying. Practice active listening whenever possible. Listen without talking. You might learn something new and valuable.
Increase relationship management = Take feedback and learn from it
No matter if it is constructive or positive, feedback can be extremely important. Feedback allows you to grow and thrive. What can you be doing better? What are you already excelling at? Where does you energy need to be focused upon?
By increasing your emotional intelligence, you become a master of your own emotions and are able to maximize your performance. It makes you a better leader, student, coworker, boss, and friend.
Written by GUADS staff member Angelina with contributions from Psychology Today